tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post1395386963724711147..comments2023-12-05T04:56:12.891-05:00Comments on Ashes and Wine: Write me a song...and a little rantJessicahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05007563901427054886noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-60984929522132334862012-10-25T15:16:22.035-04:002012-10-25T15:16:22.035-04:00It is really comforting to hear your birthstory (I...It is really comforting to hear your birthstory (I read it on your blog too :) ) Going into the unknown is super scary and as you said, as long as they get here. <br />Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05007563901427054886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-9838502278014674132012-10-20T20:13:01.293-04:002012-10-20T20:13:01.293-04:00So sorry for my comments...I keep posting them and...So sorry for my comments...I keep posting them and they are not posting the whole thing...lol. Anywho. This was beauitful girl. Of course you knew...I desired to have a natural child birth so much just like you. Of course it ended up with me having a c-seciton. I went into delievery with way too many high expectations...and wanted full control over the whole process. God always has a funny way of showing me who is in control. The pain took me into an outer body experience and I just couldn't relax. I am thankful that I did have an epidural because I labored way too long without one and I was actually ready to rest a bit before I could start pushing....of course God had other plans. The pain is something that can not be described...but you can do it...you are right are bodies were mean't for us to have the pain! <br /><br />I wouldnt of wanted it any other way looking back on it now. Seeing John and the way he smiles and looks at me makes however he entered this world a miracle in itself and minute compared to him being here now. It doesn't matter how they get here as long as they get here safely. Although I was pumped up with pitocin...spinal block from c-section and epidurals...John was wide eyed and bushy tailed coming out. He latched on to breast feeding immediately in the recovery room. He ...not drosy or anything...he was perfect...not a blemish...not a scratch...not a broken capillary from coming down the birth canal...every birth is different because not all c-sections end up perfect like mine did and not all vaginal births end up great either. Its the way God chooses to bring them in this world....and there is nothing we can do about it, but aid in delievery. Every womans body is so different and carries differently and handles things differently. I am so happy for you! You will be an awesome mother and you will do great in the delievery room! Praying for yoU!<br /><br />Corey T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05639986620256658973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-4742302362651048152012-10-20T20:10:29.065-04:002012-10-20T20:10:29.065-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Corey T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05639986620256658973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-45494405314830707022012-10-20T20:04:57.559-04:002012-10-20T20:04:57.559-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Corey T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05639986620256658973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-22249299595141109792012-10-03T20:58:05.447-04:002012-10-03T20:58:05.447-04:00Even after already going through childbirth, It wa...Even after already going through childbirth, It was so important to me to have another vaginal delivery (more so since it was twins - I hear about moms letting their doctors talk them into a scheduled c-section, when they weren't planning something else, just because its twins and it upsets me). That's why I completely agree that moms need to be there for other moms. But after each pregnancy, it didn't matter how they got here, just that they were here.Kelle-Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01497026866407602089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-81285092092689318892012-10-03T20:50:46.555-04:002012-10-03T20:50:46.555-04:00...you should talk to my friend Anna (the one who ......you should talk to my friend Anna (the one who had the same wedding dress as you)...she's done it all natural twice now, and hearing her talk about all her thoughtful preparation inspires me for the day when I get there. :-)notpoemshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16322475834335773086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-22423211752677252812012-10-02T08:30:53.823-04:002012-10-02T08:30:53.823-04:00Thank you Becky :) It is hard to talk about birth/...Thank you Becky :) It is hard to talk about birth/pregnancy/etc...as everyone has such strong opinions. My goal is to build up women, whether they choose a medicated birth or natural, whether they decide to breastfeed or not. <br />We have our own paths, as you said, but we also need to encourage other women on theirs. It is tough though :)Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05007563901427054886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-45835563479609140632012-10-02T08:28:10.568-04:002012-10-02T08:28:10.568-04:00I remember reading what you went through during th...I remember reading what you went through during these births and what a strong woman you are/were through them! <br />That is one thing that I am keeping in mind - sometimes c-sections cannot be avoided and I don't want to feel like I failed. So I am definitly praying abou tit!<br />I am so happy to see that your babies are doing well and I am sad to see that Kaitlyn felt that way. Us mommies need to encourage one another despite our choices in birth/breastfeeding/fill-in-the-blank.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05007563901427054886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-39932208175834673592012-10-02T01:05:33.978-04:002012-10-02T01:05:33.978-04:00You are awesome! You are gonna be a wonderful Mom...You are awesome! You are gonna be a wonderful Mom!!! {big hugs}Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07079363175009022463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-83727041159381324782012-10-01T20:12:27.696-04:002012-10-01T20:12:27.696-04:00Jessica, you can and will totally ROCK childbirth,...Jessica, you can and will totally ROCK childbirth, no matter what your choices are about pain management. You know how I know that? Because you are a driven, soulful, self-aware, intelligent, strong woman. We all have our own special path to walk as we become mothers, and I'm sure you know by now that sometimes mommies can be a tough crowd to run with. Sometimes people will look at you like you're nuts - well, girl, I do NOT think you're nuts. I think you're so smart to look into the options, research things, and make an educated choice for yourself. When the time comes for baby Gwendolyn to be born into the world, I can promise I will be sending up big prayers for all three of you for an easy, happy, wonderful birth experience. God bless you guys! :)Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11895220552149148796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-75563463027766176142012-10-01T19:24:34.062-04:002012-10-01T19:24:34.062-04:00Oh but I completely believe you can have a success...Oh but I completely believe you can have a successful unmedicated birth and you are not crazy for wanting it that way.Kelle-Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01497026866407602089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-44710435873479887242012-10-01T19:23:05.077-04:002012-10-01T19:23:05.077-04:00I think you realize that things may not go perfect...I think you realize that things may not go perfect and that's the biggest thing to know when giving birth - no matter what your plans are. Know that it will hurt like nothing you can imagine (but you will be fine) and know that sometimes c-sections really are needed. I wish I could have had Rhiannon and Konnor without an epidural, I wasn't even really feeling my contractions let alone in pain (but I also wasn't pushing yet so who knows how bad it might have been) but it was the hospital's policy since it was twins. It didn't bother me so much at the time, because I was mostly upset that Brian didn't get to cut the cords and we didn't get to see the babies at all until 16-18hrs after they were born. With Ainsley and Lorelei I was determined to have another successful vaginal twin delivery, but I didn't. I had to have a c-section and not because of their positions but because the placenta was coming apart, if I continued vaginally both girls could have died, me too. I did need a blood transfusion due to all the blood I lost. You could say I had an unmedicated c-section however... only the surface of my body was medicated so once they cut into my uterus ... it's nothing I can even try to explain. I started to faint from the pain before they could get the mask on my face to put me to sleep. But once again, the worst part was not getting to see my girls for several hours (although Brian got to see them shortly after - although they made him leave the OR during all the "problems" with me).<br />I tell you all this because anything could happen, you might need a c-section, try not to let it get to you. And also if in the moment you really can't handle it, don't be ashamed to ask for the epidural or be mad at yourself if you do. My sister, Kaitlyn, had her son unmedicated, but not by choice, he just came too fast. Then when she had her daughter she wanted the epidural but felt like we would think less of her if she had one, so by they time she finally said she wanted it, it was too late. In the moment anything can happen and whatever happens and however you handle it, isn't as important as having a healthy baby girl. Trust me, Ainsley stopped breathing, Lorelei needed surgery, etc... I could care less how they were born, right now, I just want them home, happy and healthy.<br />(sorry that was so long)Kelle-Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01497026866407602089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4057767425404025798.post-21891719037577355582012-10-01T17:54:24.245-04:002012-10-01T17:54:24.245-04:00Sounds beautiful!Sounds beautiful!edje4himhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05653484813953234250noreply@blogger.com